Tips for transitioning from stay-at-home mum to working mum

It's been two weeks since I transitioned from stay-at-home mum to full-time working mum, and although it's still early days, I can happily say it’s been the best decision I’ve made for myself. While the excitement of stepping back into my career has been empowering, there have also been so many mixed emotions, moments of overwhelm and a touch of guilt.

My biggest concern going into this was returning to an office full-time, but surprisingly, I’ve found it to be one of the most rewarding parts of this transition. It has given me the space to focus on my work without the constant distractions of home life. Yes, I think about Ruby a lot, especially on Nanny days, and I still worry about whether she’s okay. But these past two weeks have shown me how much I’ve grown, personally and professionally, and I feel incredibly proud of myself for embracing this change.

Whatever your journey as a mum has been, returning to a full-time role is a big adjustment. But with the right mindset, preparation and a bit of self-compassion, the transition can be both fulfilling and exciting.

Here are my top tips to help you navigate this transition from stay-at-home mum to working mum with confidence and ease:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

It’s completely normal to feel a combination of excitement, anxiety and even guilt when returning to work. Acknowledge these feelings instead of pushing them aside. Whether it’s the excitement of your new job or guilt about leaving your little one, letting yourself experience these emotions will help you overcome them more effectively. On my second day of work, it was Ruby's first day alone with the Nanny. In a moment of weakness, I checked the baby monitor to see how nap time was going—and of course, it was going terribly. I instantly felt a wave of emotion. I could see her distress, I knew she needed me, but I couldn't be there for her, and it broke my heart. Instead of pushing those feelings aside, I allowed myself to process them. I shared what I was going through with my manager, who has been incredibly supportive and understanding of my situation. I let myself tear up for a moment, and after that, I was able to reset and continue with my day.

2. Set Realistic Expectations

The transition back to work won’t be perfect, and that’s okay. It’s essential to set realistic expectations for yourself. You may need to adjust to new routines, work schedules, and responsibilities. Don’t expect everything to fall into place immediately. Start with small, manageable goals, and allow yourself the time to adapt.

3. Create a Support System

Having a strong support system is vital during this transition. Reach out to family and friends, talk with your loved one. Whether it's your partner helping with household chores, grandparents helping with childcare, or even finding a work colleague who understands your situation, having a solid support system will ease your transition and ensure you’re not doing it alone. From day one, I’ve been open and honest with my work about what my return would look like, and because of that transparency, I’ve received the support I need to make it all work. I can’t thank them enough for making me feel so comfortable and at ease throughout the entire process. It's the kind of support we all deserve, so never settle for anything less.

4. Find Childcare That Works for You

One of the most significant decisions when transitioning back to work is finding the right childcare. Do your research, tour different daycare centers, or explore in-home care options that align with your values and needs. Trusting someone else with your child can be a challenge, but knowing your child is in a safe, nurturing environment will give you peace of mind. You can read more about our experience in my blog post 'Our Journey to Finding the Perfect Nanny'

5. Establish a Morning Routine

Mornings can be chaotic, especially when juggling work and family life. Creating a solid morning routine can help set the tone for a productive day. Prepare as much as you can the night before, choose clothes, pack lunches, and organise bags. Having a set morning routine will minimise stress and help everyone get out the door on time.

6. Set Boundaries at Work and Home

Boundaries are key to maintaining balance in your life. When you return to work, it’s important to communicate your availability and limits with both your employer and your family. For me, this is the first job where I’ve made the decision not to bring work home. This means no laptop or work emails to ensure I maintain an appropriate work-life balance. Now that I'm a mum, I believe it’s even more important to completely switch off and give my full attention to my family when I’m at home. If possible, discuss flexible work options, such as working from home a few days a week or adjusting your hours to accommodate family needs. Similarly, ensure your family knows when you’re working and when it’s family time, helping to minimise interruptions.

7. Embrace the Role of the “Working Mum”

Adjusting to being a working mum involves redefining your identity (again!). Instead of feeling like you have to balance everything perfectly, embrace the flexibility and strength that comes with juggling both roles. It’s okay to ask for help, take breaks, and prioritise your well-being. You’re not only fulfilling your career goals but also modeling resilience and self-care for your little one.

8. Make Time for Yourself

As a mum and a professional, it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself. But self-care is essential to staying energised and positive. Schedule time for activities that recharge you, whether it’s a walk, reading, exercising, or catching up with a loved one. Taking care of your mental and physical health will make you a better version of yourself both at work and at home.

9. Be Kind to Yourself

One of the most important tips for transitioning from stay-at-home mum to working mum is to be kind to yourself. There will be days when things don’t go according to plan, and that’s perfectly okay. Mistakes happen, and you’re bound to feel overwhelmed at times. Be gentle with yourself, forgive yourself for any slip-ups, and focus on the progress you’re making.

10. Celebrate Your Wins

Every step you take in this transition is an achievement. Whether it’s completing your first week back at work, finding a new routine that works, or simply feeling like you’re balancing both roles more effectively, celebrate those small wins. Acknowledge your successes, no matter how big or small, and allow yourself to feel proud of the journey you're on.

Key Takeaways

• Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s normal to feel a mix of emotions when returning to work. Allow yourself to process them and seek support when needed.

• Set Realistic Expectations: The transition won’t be perfect, take it one step at a time and set manageable goals.

• Create a Support System: Reach out to family, friends and your workplace for the support you need to make the transition easier.

• Find Childcare That Works for You: Research childcare options that align with your values for peace of mind while you’re at work.

• Establish a Morning Routine: Prepare the night before to make mornings less stressful and set the tone for a productive day.

• Set Boundaries at Work and Home: Clearly communicate your availability at both work and home to maintain balance.

• Embrace the “Working Mum” Role: Redefine your identity and embrace the flexibility of balancing both roles.

• Make Time for Yourself: Prioritise self-care to recharge and stay positive in both your personal and professional life.

• Be Kind to Yourself: There will be tough days, focus on progress, not perfection.

• Celebrate Your Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate every achievement, no matter how small, along the way.

  
  

The transition from stay-at-home mum to working mum is a significant life change that comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. By preparing ahead, setting realistic expectations, and being kind to yourself, you can make this transition smoother and more fulfilling. Remember, this is your journey, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. You’ve got this!