Embracing flexibility: how letting go of expectations helped me attract the life I needed

When I used to think about flexibility, I thought it had to look a certain way — part-time work, working from home, being my own boss. I had this vision that in order to create the life I wanted, I had to follow that exact path. But here we are, six months into 2025, and I’ve realised something different.

My word of the year was attract. I set the intention to attract incredible opportunities into my life: a job that felt flexible and complemented my life, mindfulness, a nourished body (from the inside out), meaningful connections in my relationships, and consistency with my creative work (like this blog).

What I’ve come to learn over the past six months is that the one thing that ties all of these goals together is flexibility, not just in my schedule, but in my mindset, my expectations, and the way I allow life to unfold.

One of my main goals this year was to show up more consistently here on the blog. But I found myself pulling back when I unexpectedly attracted a full-time job — one that changed my life for the better.

You see, I used to think that in order to have flexibility as a working mum, I had to work for myself, or part-time, or from home. But the moment I let go of those expectations, I attracted exactly what I needed: a full-time role that aligns with everything I am and everything I love to do.

Even more, this job is local, and I can walk to work! The flexibility isn’t about my work hours, but about how it fits into my life. I no longer lose hours commuting into the city. I get to move my body in the morning on the way to work, clear my mind, and return home quickly to spend time with my daughter. I honestly never thought that was possible. I didn’t think I’d find a full-time role that worked for me as a mum, but here I am, doing work I love while still being present for my family. And I feel so grateful.

I think one of the reasons I stopped writing here for a while was because I didn’t feel like I had much to say, and I didn’t want to show up inauthentically. Instead, I gave myself the space to grow into this new chapter, to embrace the changes and settle into this season of life. Now, I finally feel like I have something to say again, and that feels really good. So, I'm back writing this post today, reflecting on these past six months and choosing to share what I’ve learned, in the hope it might inspire someone else too.

Yes, there have been times when I’ve fallen out of my routines and lost consistency. But when I look at my vision board and the goals I set, I realise how far I’ve come. And if there’s one takeaway I want to carry into the rest of the year, it’s this:

Be flexible.

Whether it’s your health, your work, your relationships, or your creative passions, life rarely unfolds exactly how you imagined. You might not always get to work on your goals in the way you originally planned, but with a little flexibility, you can still make progress. Some days I may not move my body the way I’d ideally like to, but I can still find moments — after Ruby’s in bed, after dinner, or even by including her. It might not look perfect, but progress is still progress and being flexible with how you get there is often the key to maintaining momentum.

So as I step into the next half of 2025, I’m focusing on getting back to consistency in all areas of my life. I feel proud of what I've achieved so far, but I’m ready to keep pushing forward with all the goals I set for myself, including committing to writing again, sharing what I can, and continuing to attract the life I want, with a flexible, open heart.

If you’re reflecting on your own year so far, I encourage you to do the same: look back, be proud of how far you’ve come, and maybe bring a little more flexibility into the months ahead. You never know what you might attract when you let go of the “shoulds” and open yourself up to what’s truly meant for you.